How to behave to the youth job seekers ?

You may be thinking that why your young kid is not behaving well and stays in the close room? Be supportive to your child and help him/her to councel well to beging the life with shining days!

I have taken this experience from Quora digest which might help to those who are in dire need to solve!

Thank you to Mohamoud El-Nahal for this article about his advice! Which is great! 

Listen my friend. A job seeker young guy!

Don't worry, you are not alone. I felt the same until 4th of February, i actually was addicted to some kind of drug which i had to stop as well during the last two months journey, i hope it remains for the rest of my life the same as i am doing it now.

I studied engineering for 8- 9 years, to be specific two bachelor's, i graduated last year from my second bachelor's of electrical engineering and information technology. I felt lost, i have no skill, my grades are great, but still i felt lost, i am useless, and worthless. I have no value to offer, that was the reason i started to abuse the drug.

4th of February, a year after abusing the drug, i decided to go for more, for seven continious days, until i had a very bad trip, alone, all by myself, and since i decided to change cities last January, the closest friend for me was 8 hours away “In a foreign country”. In the trip i forgot my name and everything about me. I was freaking out, and i decided to start to remember anything and to analyze the feeling i have by writing on a note, why am i scared of this drug ? What can i be without it ? Who am i ? Can i change the situation?

With the help of my mother, and my sister with their endless love and care (they don't know i was addicted to any drug or if i am passing by any bad situation, last time i met them was two years ago) , and a friend who works in psychotherapy, all by talking in the phone, no one around for two months, no one familiar. I could survive this very hard situation, and i could develop the habit of reading, and writing, i write summarize of what i read. So it's important to let you know, it's not about how much do you read, it's about how do you read. In other words, if someone wrote a book in 2 — 6 years, and you say i read the book in couple of hours .. congratulations, you did nothing. I will suggest self-help books which i read during the last two months, i picked these books very carefully, i will suggest all what i have read, and 2 books are in the list of many many upcoming.

The meaning of Life: it introduce to what effects our meaning of life.

The obstacle is the way: why is every obstacle we face can be our way to success.

Unscripted — very very important : changing your mind of living scripted life, with scripted thinking, or being mediocre. Start living Unscripted, different that anyone you know, different than you have ever imagined before.

Man's search for meaning — very important: How can you find meaning in life IN SUFFERING, even if your suffering is huge, you still can find meaning. The book could be a bit boring in some areas, but i took 3 full days studying this book and ended up with 10 A4 summary pages out of this small book, which are relevant to me and explained using logotherapy.

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Next in the list:

How to win friends and influence people.

The laws of human nature.

Calm.

Learning how to learn.

In the end, you have to take the decision my friend, it seems you really got bored of what you are doing atm. Take the steps slowly, but intensively. Both of us are 26 years old, and we think we are late in the game, but believe me, non of those who answered know what you feel, and i can even think that non of them ever thought i am a loser .. we are all losers my friend, and the first step to take is to wonder, why am i a loser, and how can i change that fact !

We are never late, go learn and you are ignorant. As you don't know anything in life, and you are a new born baby trying to understand the surrounding.

If you need more info, send me a private message please.

Good luck, and best wishes.

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Flash back from my stay in Herat, Afghanistan

Whilst, I was working in Afghanistan with WFP, I got the opportunity to station in different region and cities like Jalalabad, Kandahar, Mazar, Faizabad, Herat and Kabul. I am so fortunate that I could work inside Afghanistan during Taliban regime too. It was 2001, when I was stationed in Herat and still Taliban regime. In our WFP Area Office, there were only two International Staffs including me and my colleague, Ms. Silanda from Tanzania. It was so difficult to work for women during those days inside Afghanistan. I used to work for Food for Education. We had to employ women staff for food monitoring and they should be placed inside the public hospital compound and they were not allowed to talk and see men and other strangers. Our office had employed two women staff and they are stationed in one city Hospital to perform their duties. It is very strange, no male staff can visit them and all the administrative works had to complete through their Muharram or the female international staff. It was really a challenging job! During this period, Afghanistan was facing drought and no rain at all for 6 or & years and thus no enough snow to melt in the summer resulting no food production. People were leaving their villages to other villages or relatives with the hope of water like Kuchis (local nomads). Later, they became internally displaced people (IDPs). We were once evacuated from the country after 2/3 days after the 9/11 (2001) incident . We were then stationed in Islamabad for sometime and we worked remotely from Islamabad office. .......(will fill up later)




I became so happy when I received one email from my Afghan colleague, Bibi DIl Siddiqi.

From: BiBiDil_saddiqi200 saddiqi <saddiqi_dil@yahoo.com>
To: "devakish@yahoo.com" <devakish@yahoo.com>
Sent: Tuesday, September 24, 2013 3:48 PM
Subject: Hello

Dearest Devaki Jan,

Hope to be fine with your respected family and lovely husband and Daughert. So happy to find you on Facebook and watch your nice and cute pictures.

My dear sister, how are you and how is life? have you working somewhere?  after long time I saw your message and picture believe me I was totally changed and more happy to you. I and my family are fine my oldest son Tamim now in Germany my daughter Morsal has  gotten married with her aunt's son and another two daughter Sunbol graduated from Low and Political faculty and Sahar is in Law faculty. Fahim is third class of Art and Beauty faculty Graphic section and the last Maten is in the 8th class of school.My husband is good when I told him  I got message from Devaki Jan he was so happy and sent best regard to you.

currently I am working with USAID project as M&E Coordinator and it is the result of your assistance and working with you that I reach in this position thanks a lot.

Dearest Devaki Jan, if I write books about your qualification,  personality, kindness and wonderful  behavior truly it is not enough.hope to consider me as your students and really friend. I don't know within this period you came to Afghanistan or not.

Any time you needs some thing from Afghanistan or any people come from you please call me.

wish you more happiness ,success and more prosperity

best of luck

your sister

BiBiDil Siddiqi

Monitoring visit to Panjshir Province (Afghanistan)

Location of Panjshir:

Panjshir Valley is 150 Km north of Kabul. It is near the Hindu Kush mountain range and situated in Panjshir Province. Large majority of ethnic tajiks are concentrated in this province. This province is also remarkable for being the birth place of the leader Ahmad Shah Masoud. The Panjshir River has added the beauty of this province. Whilst driving along the beautiful Panjshir River, it is so pleasant to see the natural beauty green trees which can’t be seen in other places of Kabul. In summer lots of people from the nearby places and Kabul enjoy picnic along side of the river.

Introduction of the WFP school feeding program:

The food insecure districts were targeted for the school feeding program in order to support the needy school children for regular attendance in the school and in other way it will support them to grow their physical and emotional growth. Poor nutrition and health among schoolchildren contributes to the inefficiencyin the learning process. Thus, school feeding program will support to fight with the short term hunger of the children support them to learn in the class room. Panjshir was selected as one of the provinces  for the pilot school feeding program by the government of Afghanistan together with WFP in 2009. In the process of the monitoring visit, the team was scheduled to visit the province and left Kabul in the morning of mid February. It was clear morning in Kabul on that day but whilst proceeding towards Panjshir, it snowed and when the group reached there all covered with snow as white and white everywhere! It was nice feeling to have snow after the winter was considered as over.

Meeting with the provincial and district education department staff:

It was a productive meeting with the partners and community members about the implementation of the project in a participatory way. Parents, community members, school teachers and DoE officials showed their high participation in the program. The team was fascinated to have the positive particpation of the all the partners. They expressed a need of training on how to implement the successful project including how to construct the kitchen and management of preparing nutritious lunch for the children. It was a very amazing mission! It was also considered as participatory monitoring mission! It was also decided to have a training for them in the following week. Following pictures are some snap shots of the visit for keeping fresh of the trip.

Provincial Education Department, Panjshir with snow cover

With Provincial Edu. Dept. staff, Panjshir



Wide road to Panjshir (snowing)

Community projects pictures!

Protection of the river bank with
Food Aid Project



Partipation of Shura members for the
project work

Community participation for the
 protection work project



Example of  successful community participation
for the
completion of the project(riverbank protection)

Food ration distribution to TB patient
(women in veil)

Food ration distribution monitored by
WFP field staff for TB patients

Photo Gallery



Sewing training for income generation activity for women



Tailoring training for the literacy participants in Afg



Green initiative  project for income generation by the women 1



Green initiative project for income generation by the women 2

Green initiative project for income generation by the women 3

Shura of Chaghcharan, an example of Empowering Community

Background information:

After the emergency program (EMOP), WFP started its PRRO activities in Chaghcharan, Ghor Province. Most of the people were displaced to Hirat and other neighboring provinces in the years 2001/2002. Many returnees from Mashlakh IDP camps were also from this province. After the emergency operation of FFD, WFP faced difficulty to identify potential partners to implement the FFW project activities. Since the province is one of the remotest provinces of the country, only handful of NGOs is available in the area. Most of those NGOs were reluctant to work FFW activities. People were willing to work for cash instead. WFP program staffs had a good brainstorming to work with the communities. Initially, it was a difficult process to work with the communities whilst equally challenging too. A series of meetings were conducted with the communities by the WFP staffs, where the vulnerability is high and there is no other means of survival opportunities. Sofak Community is one among the most vulnerable community, where they have one to two months’ food from their production and rest of the period they have to depend on the daily labor or the outside aid. There were about 600 household compounds comprising 2000 families. In the year only around 40 families returned from the IDP camps in this village.
The community decided to work for expanding their donkey trail into the motorable road. They had difficulty to get access to the district headquarter, Chaghcharan. They have to walk or by donkey. Especially when people get sick, it was difficult to them to reach the provincial headquarter in time. The project was agreed to implement. WFP staff helped them to make a layout design of the project. The project proposal was prepared and letter of agreement was signed between Sofak community and WFP Hirat AO. It was really a challenge step taken by WFP to mobilize community in the first hand to manage the food aid.
The project was implemented in July and completed in August 2003. The laborers were selected on the basis of most vulnerable. 579 laborers worked for 32 days within two months time period and they received food ration, which consists of wheat, rice, pulses and oil for four months. The communities were supposed to complete 30 km of road leveling and widening as per the work norm. But, the community was happy to work more than estimated in order to finish whole road up to the linking point to another districts Ghalmin and Charsada. They were able to complete about 45 Km of road construction with stone masonry work at the side way. The community contributed all their tools by themselves.

Impact assessment of the project:

I had an opportunity to visit this Community Shura on 14th November 2003 on my mission to Chaghcharan for a week with my colleague Eng. Bashirullah, PA. We drove the road almost up to the end. We observed at many places they had to cut the rocky hills. The whole road was constructed in a professional way that they have also done the stone masonry work. The road can link now to Ghalmin and Charsada districts of Cheghcharan. The people were busy in collecting firewood for the winter and they are already prepared for snowfall. The day itself was so cold and getting snow and rain in the neighboring village.
The head of Community Shura, Mr. Arief greeted us very warmly and he expressed his happiness to complete this project. Few people gathered thereby and we had some discussion about the completion of the project. One of the community members, Mr. Mohammad Zarif, who also worked in the road leveling, mentioned that for the first time they received the food commodity from WFP directly and on time with their full entitlement. In the past they had to wait and usually the (village elders) “Arbab” were contacted by the NGOs who work with WFP. People were not sure what the entitlement was. The project helped them to understand the work and the meaning of food for work. To my specific question, what were the most three good things about the project? He mentioned that easy access to go to Chaghcharan by vehicle, giving one recent incident of delivery case of a woman taken to the hospital, whilst the case could be difficult to reach by a donkey in time. The next participant was Mr. Abdul Ghani, 53 years old, mentioned that the FFW has helped them a lot as their harvest was bad and they had difficult time. He expressed that he could work close to their home for 32 days (16 days per month) and got the WFP food ration for four months to cover the winter period. On the top he mentioned that the oil received for the first time from WFP was really great for them. He mentioned that they do not have that purchasing capacity to buy that much oil from the market. At the end, Mr. Mohammad Arief with smiling face expressed his concern to WFP for providing the opportunity to work for the road construction with Food Aid. He produced a thanking letter to WFP on behalf of all his community including women, widow and children and recognized the work of WFP staff, Mr. Bashirullah, for his support and encouragement to implement the project. He also mentioned that they distributed free food to 150 families, who were disable, elderly, widow headed families from the project. It was really rare to provide thanking letter by the partner to the donor agency, and I felt that WFP is really heading to its Partnership modality.
Further, to my question to Mr. Arif, why he was so happy with the project, he explained that first the project now belongs to them, secondly, it has build their status in the community, thirdly the work generated food security for the vulnerable people in the community. The land was dry and the production hardly enough for 1-2 months. Due to the road access, hence, some NGOs were visiting them to train agriculture techniques. For the first time they had been introduced to plant potatoes in their village whilst they knew to plant wheat and some fodder for animals only.

Conclusion:

Compare to the total cost of food commodity, 143 .21 MT (82.3 MT wheat, 41.15 MT Rice, 9.88 MT pulses and 9.88 MT edible oil) and work volume done by the community, the project was much worthwhile to compare with any project done by some professional NGO partners. In terms of cash expenditure also the amount USD 1050 for monitoring supervision cost was minimal and even less than the normal LTSH cost per MT. WFP where possible need to encourage such Community Shura to be the real partners. This was one of the nine Community Shuras, with whom; WFP was working in Ghor province, one of the remotest provinces. The confidence they have gained made them empowered a lot in the process of community building. They were looking forward to work more for themselves. The communities were in utmost need and they need food aid to explore more off-farm activities.


14th Nov.2003

My diary in Kabul: attack in one Guest House in Shar-e-naw!

Devaki Shrestha

Probably this was the first of such attack targeting UN staff's resident in Kabul on 28th October 2009, Afghanistan. I woke up early morning around 6.00 am from my guest house resident's mobile call, who was also my UN colleague; He asked me whether I heard the gun shoot in that moment. Gun shoot was so common in the country that we used to hear the sound thinking that it might be somewhere targeted Government offices or anti government agents (AGA). Instead I asked him what happened and where was the attack? He scared me telling me the gun shoot was on and fire coming out of one of the UN cleared Guest house close to our guest house and asked me to turn on my TV.I was scared and at the same time I turned on TV and saw thick smoke coming out from a building broadcasted live by Alzazeera TV, CNN and BBC as well and the caption tells "one of the UN cleared private guest house was under attack by the gunfighter, where most of the UN residents were staying". I was so much scared and the situation stunned me. The hot live news broadcasted by the TV channels made worry to the family members back home so that most of the guest house-mates including myself received calls from their family and friends. It was also because of the similar name of our Guest house, named "Bastan" whilst the GH under fire was named as "Bakhtiar". So many people were confused to learn the incident back home. After few hours, UN security Officers of the respective UN agencies issued security advisory to their staffs all over Kabul to stay inside the GH and informed about the white city which means no movement and people (UN staffs) were advised to stay home with attentive to their radio and mobile messages. In one side we were scared about the incident and in other way we were gathering inside the Guest house just watching the television news. It was said 4 UN staff were killed in the incident. Most of the residents were fast asleep as the incident happened early morning around 5.30 before the people leave the guest house for their offices. The attackers entered the Guest house by disguised in armed security people and thus able to enter the building threatening the guard at the gate.